I expect her to care about me and to want to connect with me emotionally regardless of what state I'm in. (I also expect her to ease off a bit if it's clear that I'm not interested in her closeness right then.)

As far as how much contact I should get, I feel like I should probably get once weekly appointments. So the fact that I get twice weekly appointments and extra phone contact whenever is kind of confusing and upsetting sometimes. I think maybe that's the point, though.