That sometimes after trauma people can end up with irrational fears and afraid of the people around them. Even if they haven't hurt them. It doesn't have to be a personal thing.

I was terrified of my dad touching me after my initial abuse even though he would never hurt anyone and never gave me any reason to fear him. I feel so guilty for how I must have made him feel. Now I'm making my fiance feel the same way and I feel like ****.