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Originally Posted by seesaw
"Other people have it worse than you."
Yes, I know that, but it still doesn't make my pain or trauma any less. And I'm not in a pissing contest with anyone over my pain. My pain is still real and valid and someone else's pain has no relevance to me. Thinking that others have it worse actually makes me feel bad because I had it so terrible, I can't imagine someone having to deal with worse!
I think people do not realize how these statements invalidate our pain and emotions. They just want to offer some cookie cutter wisdom that is really only patronizing and insensitive. I don't think they realize how hurtful that kind of "advice" is.
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Yes, this!
It's like the classic "There are children in Africa who have no food", or "There are people with no food on their tables".
HOW are these statements supposed to make me feel better?
Would you tell this to a person suffering from a chronic illness, heck, even cancer? Would you tell them "At least you're not starving to death in Africa"?No, you will give him the best help you can ever give him to get them as high on their feet as possible in your LOCAL area (UNRELATED to what's not physically related!).
My frustration