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Julia: whenever my son rings him hubby says 'so when are you going to get your teeth fixed and when are you going to get a job?' as if he thinks my son is just faking. thats the frustration

I can't recall at the moment if it was Pennkid or Itadakimasu who made a similar comment a while ago -- that they felt as if their families believed they were "faking". It's always possible that your husband believes the best thing he can do for your son right now is to not "stick" him with a label. Sometimes people also feel that it's better to be jovial and lighthearted around people who are in a crisis. I suspect that in their own way, they're trying to instill a sense of hope that life will still go on.

How is your husband's response sitting with your son? Is he feeling misunderstood, considered a "faker" by his father? If so, maybe there's a way you could gently point this out to your husband. Sometimes, people are more open to these kind of criticisms if you can first acknowledge their sincere desire to help.

I got magoes and banas...I heard they are quite useful. also useful is plums tomatoes walnuts and pecans I heard.

Do you recall why they're considered useful? I'm guessing it's something related to whatever nutrients they contain but do you know what those nutrients are and why they're supposed to be helpful?