Hm, maybe it is the family thing, at least for me. I only felt like I had to say something to MC and ex-T once I found stuff about their respective spouses. A while back (before that), I found a YouTube video of MC doing a talk for a parenting website, but I felt no need to tell him about that.

I've certainly Googled current T but haven't felt guilt or the need to tell him--except for in the first session, where I talked about ex-T's and MC's reactions to my googling, he said he just expected people to google, and I admitted I'd googled him after making the appointment (which he was fine with). However, I haven't tried to google his family (or felt a need to). I know his wife's name, because it was mentioned at the end of a column he writes (that he mentions on his professional website, so I felt OK reading it). So it would be very easy just to type her name into the search bar (and it's not a particularly common last name). Yet I haven't felt the need/urge to google her and actually realize it could have a negative effect on me if I did. However, I suspect if I did end up doing that, I might feel guilty and like I should tell him.