Regarding siblings, I'm effing glad abuser brother hasn't messaged in several months. He doesn't want conversation when he messages anyway, just a dump window for his ranting about how people are idiots, how "work is slavery" (says the person refusing to work and living off others' labour), how he's "stuck in life" thanks to me.

If I could, I want absolutely zero contact with him.

I talked with my partner about the future. Who'd be welcome in our future home when I move and am legally resident. He wants to never see my family of origin ever again if he can help it. Other than my younger brother.