Hello and welcome to PC!

I am a little confused by your post. You say you have irrational anger, but that you don't know how it is that you have this attitude your boyfriend speaks of, or how you are acting *****y. If you have irrational anger, then he is justified in saying what he is. If not, then you have a point of contention.

I would ask him for specific examples of your *****iness and attitude so you can understand better what he is referring to. This will be the only way to get to the bottom of the issue. He needs to explain it to you just how are you acting that comes across as *****y and whatnot. This needs to be discussed and fleshed out calmly and maturely.

Also, if HE is giving you an attitude when something is bothering you about his behavior, perhaps HE is the real problem, and not you. So there's that possibility, too. But I would ask for specific examples.

((((hugs))))