I find the most challenging part of LDR is travel (taking time off and expenses). I had one LDR and he was a great guy both long distance and in person (I don’t see how people can pretend? Usually people reveal themselves pretty early on, we just have to pay attention).

We found it very difficult to continue relationship because we both had children at home at the time and it was brutal to negotiate travels with weeks on/off 50/50 custody and work obligations (not matching work schedule etc). Plus neither one of us would be able to move due to kids and work. Overall LDR isn’t a good option for busy people especially with kids.

My daughter is in LDR now. But they’ve met and dated in
real life, just ended up long distance. It’s stressful but they see each other quite often and plan on moving in the near future (some time next year). Travel is a challenge but she has a lot of days off/holidays off.

I think the issue is that people spend a very long time online or on The phone prior to meeting and then they are shocked it’s not what they expected. Guy that I ended in LDR with flew to see me two weeks after first conversation. No way on the planet I’d be on the phone with some stranger for months or years without meeting!