For those that talk to their T's about counter transference, how did you first bring it up? Did it get easier? Was there any type of push back or attempts to analyze your reasoning for asking about it?


Have you found it a useful tool or a hindrance to discuss it directly? Did it ever come out to not be the way you thought it was, did that hurt more or less?


Off and on I have felt like there has been counter transference happening with my T. I have never asked her about it directly. I have asked in my journal. And we have never talked about it. Mostly, I do believe it's best left for them to deal with outside of my sessions. Sometimes though I wonder if it would be helpful to discuss it a little. My T does not self disclose very much, though she is an active participant in my sessions, providing me with many experiences, so I wouldn't consider her a blank slate. It is unusual for us to talk much about what is going on for her - I get about a 40/60 split on her answering my question to analyzing or somehow her wiggling out of answering my question.