I suppose it depends on what you mean by "closure." I'm thinking of when T and I talked about possibly having one or both of my parents come in for a session, maybe to address some stuff from childhood. T said if we were to do that, I'd have to go into it with no expectations of how the other person would respond. Like if I went into it hoping my mom would apologize for not supporting my emotional needs, I'd likely come out disappointed. But if I went into it just with the goal of expressing myself, sharing what had upset me, maybe standing up for myself--then that would be different.

I think closure with a T might be kind of the same way. Like, in my case, if I just want to say certain things to MC--and if I'm honestly not going in looking for a particular response (easier said than done, I'm sure!)--and my goal is just to get that stuff out, maybe to attempt to assert myself a bit--then that could possibly be beneficial. But that's something I'm also going to discuss with my T. It could just come down to, I type out all I want to say, hand him the piece of paper either at the start or the end of last session, then tell him it's just stuff I wanted to get out, that he doesn't have to respond in any way. Or, I don't know, even mail or drop off a letter for him after we're done (because if it was e-mail, I'd be more likely to expect a response).

So, I think it's all about what someone wants from closure...