Oh my goodness. This is EXACTLY what happened with my ex therapist. Every part of it. The blurred boundaries, the 'friendlike' attitude and then wham! The hug rejection. DP this is so familiar to me. Very much so. I'm afraid I eventually had to face the fact my T didn't have the competency level I needed. This type of inconsistency and confusion is hurtful and cruel. I'm very sorry you're going through it.