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Old Jan 05, 2018, 05:58 PM
Elio Elio is offline
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I can see how painful and triggering this has been for you. I'm a bit confused, you say that you hugged often and then you say that he said he can't allow touch. Has he taken away what touch you did have or was he responding to the concept of those additional touches you described?

I ask you this because several months back I asked for additional touch. The request was for a very specific type of touch with a very specific purpose in mind. After many weeks, my T finally had made the decision to not extend touch to this area. It was extremely painful and confusing. One thing I did do via between session contact because I was not doing well with the 'no' was ask if this meant she was removing what 1 touch that is allowed. She told me no that her refusal was specific to what I had asked for. This made it easier for me.

If you didn't get that clarified, then it might be worth it to gather this information before you make a decision. If he did remove all touch, that is awful. Either case he went about it in a very insensitive and traumatizing way; and I am sorry that you are going through this.
Thanks for this!
Anonymous45127, DP_2017