Being ok with it...even asking for it...even BEGGING for it...does not make it ok for a therapist to cross therapeutic boundaries. YOUR feelings - all of them - are welcome. It is your therapist's job to hold the boundaries, even if the client is ok with or asking for them to be crossed. That is, ultimately, how they demonstrate their care for us. And, it is their primary job -- SO MUCH of the work we do in therapy is done through this sort of caretaking.

Also, there should never be a situation where a therapist is meeting his own needs with a client (outside of the need to get paid and do meaningful work). He should get his own needs met outside of therapy so that he can focus all of his attention and energy on what you need, which is, more than anything else, a safe place with a safe person.