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Originally Posted by Coming up tails
toomanycats is speaking alot of wisdom here.
I know this sounds blunt but you shouldnt be working your way towards a friendship. That in itself is crossing boundaries.
Ask yourself if you are looking at this man to meet your needs in therapy and also after its ended? Just because needs are not sexual does not make it necessarily appropriate.
The goal of therapy is not to keep this person in your life.
If he has counter transference and is actually looking at you to meet a need the he needs to process that and find another way thats more appropriate to meet his needs
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I don't think I am. I don't NEED to have friends. I have plenty of online friends and a best friend. we just click and have a really amazing connection and tons in common and super close in age. It feels like it should "be" -- I never felt this way until months in and getting to know him, and yes I have, he has been very open and personal with me. I've seen him in out of session settings too.... and I know what he is "like" outside the office.
At any rate, he clearly has been playing me if "friendship" is his biggest worry when he has been sending signals left and right that is what he also wanted