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Originally Posted by DP_2017
Well no kidding, my desire is to be friends AFTER therapy. I've talked to many people on other forums who have done just that. There is even a story about a man and his former T who were friends for 25 years until one died. It is possible but obviously with his comment today, he has no interest in it... just acting like he does to lure me along.
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I don't know about him luring you along. I'm not there with you. It could be that right now you are not friends and what he thought in his mind when he heard your thoughts was that it was too intimate for the relationship you currently have with him. Again, not trying to defend him. He handled it extremely poorly, leaving you hurt and confused. It also sounds like he was not attuned to you and didn't see how much it affected you.
BTW, I wanted to let you know that it was well over a year before I physically touched my T for the first time. I had gotten to a place where I was starting to think that she would not touch me because of being disgusting (I'm gender non-conforming, initially I don't think of myself as disgusting but I had recently started taking testosterone and that left me feeling like I was contaminated). My only allowed touch is a handshake; however, she does allow it to linger so it's not all business level handshake. Incidental contact is also not a boundary - I needed this spelled out for me; that I would not be "bad" if we accidentally touched.