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Originally Posted by velcro003
you know even if you do get attached, it is okay. this T clearly holds firmer boundaries and will be able to handle it better. i also think there are/were a lot of factors that played into your transference with MC specifically that wouldn't necessarily translate with your new T.
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Thanks, I think you're right. T is very different from MC, in multiple ways. Clear boundaries are one of them. I've also talked to T about my fears of getting attached and how he'd react, and he said we'd work through it, that he wouldn't just drop me. I asked if it was possible to have a healthy attachment to a T, and he said of course.
But then I have trouble understanding why *he* wouldn't worry about it...like why would he want to deal with that? Why not just take on clients who don't have the whole background of attachment to male T's? But then...I mean, I don't think I'm *that* scary...maybe he just wants to help? Maybe he actually likes working with me?