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Originally Posted by toomanycats
I do totally get it
When C suddenly changed his email policy earlier this week, I was immediately in like a flashback to when S left, and I literally sobbed "no no no this is S all over again no." That fear doesn't just disappear. It's ok that you are scared - it makes sense that you are scared.
The truth is, trusting him IS a risk. But, T is not MC. They are different people, and you are a different person than when you started with MC. So, the same thing can't happen - because nobody is the same here.
But, yes, it is still a risk. As C tells me, relationships are always a risk.
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Thanks for this. How did C change his e-mail policy? I think you may have said something about him wanting you to contact him less, but didn't explain what the change was. Is he actually limiting you? Or just saying he hopes you can cut back? MC saying I needed to cut back on outside contact felt like a knife in the heart...because multiple times, I'd asked him about it before, and he'd always said it was fine, that he just couldn't guarantee how quickly he could read or respond (if at all, apparently...). I'm still not 100% clear on what crossed the line about a month ago (he said it "bothered" him that week, but had not in the past...)
Though I guess I've managed not to do any outside contact with him for...(consults calendar) 26 days...