I've just come across this and really relate, as i struggle with dark daydreams as well and sometimes they are intrusive and unwanted. i've daydreamed a LOT since i was very young, like pretending to be characters in the books i was reading. at that point in most of my daydreams i had no parents, even though in reality i was terrified of losing my mom. as i got older, the daydreams got darker, and like scaredandconfused originally said, i daydreamed a lot about being abused etc. i have no idea why, or why it somehow made me feel "safe" to imagine being hurt or put at risk.

that has also turned into daydreams about being in dangerous situations, like being in a mall and daydreaming that gunmen run in and start shooting, and how i would react, and what i would think, and where i would hide etc. i think a part of me finds it calming because it feels like i'm in control of these situations when i'm creating them in my mind. i feel really embarrassed to mention to anyone in my offline life that i have daydreams like this. sometimes, like a couple of days ago, a daydream like that can turn awful, like my mind trying to find the worst possible scenario i could find myself in and imagining how i would react and what the repercussions would be. at that time i don't want to carry on the daydream but find myself unable to stop.

recently i've also been having the problem of not feeling real in my own life - like, my life feels like i'm reading a story and not actually a real part of it. hearing other people talk makes me feel like they are alive and experience real things in their lives, while my life is just this second-hand, grey experience. i think the fact that my daydreams feel so real is not helping this. like sometimes my emotional reactions to my daydreams will be stronger to my reactions to real events.

scaredandconfused and other posters - did you get any clarity about your daydreaming? do you still have it to this extent?