Wow, good memory...yeah, that was a couple years ago. He claimed they weren't related, but, I mean, the conversation where I said, "If I love you, is that OK?" and he said, "That's OK" was, I think, on a Friday, then he was weird to me the next session, then we talked on the phone that Wednesday, which is when I was requesting an individual session. And that's when he was really harsh to me and told me no. And when I said how much it hurt, he said something about how pain is part of therapy, or something to that effect.

After discussing it for part of several sessions, he finally admitted that he never should have offered the "my door is open" for individual sessions at all, that he realized it was a mistake as soon as he said it. I don't think he ever truly understood why it upset me so much. And for him to just say "it was a mistake" seems a copout...I don't think he ever actually apologized, which would have gone a long way...

So maybe he's just weird with expressions of love from clients--or at least from me--even though he says they're OK...