I decided to see a private therapist for the first time today, and after the session I felt disappointed. (I have met with a school psychologist before, and she was absolutely amazing and helpful in making me take action with my problems .) so compared to today's session it was very different.

I am only 17 years old and, Im not close with my parents ,so I had to seek help without my family knowing. I emailed multiple psychologists in the area, and made sure to let them know that I was only 17, and would appreciate fee deductions etc. I also said in the emails that I wanted to work on building confidence to open up to my parents so they can help me pay for therapy in the future.

out of the 4 psychologists I contacted, 2 hadn't responded yet, and 1 said they couldn't help me because I needed parental consent, and did not want problems for seeing an underage secretly. The only therapist who replied said he would be happy to give me a promotion by like 30% , and also suggested we meet in the following days. He seemed really keen and the price was reasonable so I confirmed it without asking much info since I really happy to get help.

when I arrived, I was confused because it was just a house. I rang the bell and a women casually dressed opened. I apologized thinking it was the wrong house. But she says if I'm here for therapy its inside . I go in and sit in a living room. Then my therapist comes in and guides me to another room. shakes my hand and introduces himself. I sat down and he asked about what problems I was facing etc. and we discussed it and I shared some of my life events. On multiple occasions he would share anecdotal stories of himself that resembled mine. on the chair he sat with one leg folded up and the other on the floor playing with the carpet throughout. we also ended up talking 40 mins overtime. Unlike my last experience with therapy, he didn't talk about our info being confidential or how the therapy process would work. I basically felt like we just had a conversation for 2 hours. He seemed quite nice and laidback, making compliments or siding with some of the things I was saying. Although I find this nice, I read online that proffesional therapists aren't supposed to agree and side with your opinions but just respect it???. We talked about my fear of seeing people, and he had forgotten the word for this. Which he remembered later to be ' Agoraphobia'. In the end he handed me a book , and said read this for next time. But, there was no conclusion or summary of the session. I felt like I had just payed for a conversation basically. Not much guidance or direction. Or even questioning what I want out of this. I told him I was moving out soon for uni, and he giggled and said 'thats when your life ACTUALLY gets serious'. I didn't really understand what he meant but could this suggest that my life isn't serious now?? like as in I shoudlnt take this seriously and over stress ? * confused *

Anyway, on the way out he spoke to the lady I saw earlier - turns out she was his girlfriend ..who was just watching TV outside our therapy room this whole time. Im not sure what to think since I don't feel like this session was helpful and I fear that the little money I have is going to waste if I give it a few more sessions and they all turn out like this. l feel forced to go back again next week though, since I have his book with me now.
I don't know if he's just a laidback person, or if he's just not very good at his job. Honestly Im not feeling too hopeful for the next session although Im not trying to be too judgmental just after one session.

should I find someone else ???? should give it a few more sessions to see if it gets better ? What do you think?