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Old Jan 06, 2018, 11:56 AM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch View Post
Maybe where it says: “only teens may post here” it should say:

“Only teens may start a new thread topic for any PC member to reply to “
hey great idea,

while we are at it how about doing the same (change or ignore the limitations placed ) to the senior board, transgender and other gender board and the womens forum and the mens forum and basically the whole site where there are limitations on who and what can be posted in them.....

ok ok I was being sarcastic, of course I dont want that to happen... my point was each board has its limitations for a reason. that reason is because there was/ is a need for those limitations.....

otherwise psych central would be just like many other websites out there where the boards are not very well organized, posts and threads gotten lost and people feeling paranoid and hurt when someone who does not understand and have those situations take threads off track, with people who are not in those categories posting and replying about things that they dont go through.

Has anyone actually taken the time to look back on the history of these "only" designated boards. many of us who have been here more than 5 years can pretty much remember the creation of at least one of these "only" designated boards and why the "only" rule was imposed....

I have been here long enough (8 plus years) to see more than one "Only" designated board come into being by doc john....

each time it came about because those boards were asked for and they fit Doc Johns criteria for having their own board.

Having the "Only" designation happened after there were problems in those boards with being open to everyone. people in those boards were afraid others didnt understand the unique problems that come with being a teen, a senior, transgendered and other, didnt feel women understood mens issues and women didnt feel comfortable having men answer their posts about female issue.... on and on and on... feelings got hurt, people felt stigmatized, discriminated when others outside the category posted there.....

in short the "only" designation was placed on each of those boards for a reason... it was and is needed.

think of it this way... each member look at their own posting history. notice where they post the most.. then think about whether you would want some one who does not have that issue, come in telling you what to to about your problem when they have no idea whats what with that problem...

I know I certainly would not want a man to tell me what to do about my periods, or a teen ager tell me what to do about my senior parent, or someone who is not LGBTQ giving me advice on my being a lesbian and my lesbian related problems, or ....

well you see what I mean.... why should we impose ourselves into the teens only board...

dont get me wrong I can understand being on the outside looking in and seeing no replies and want to reply there, I have had that feeling on each of the"only" designated boards... but I recognize that the"Only" rule is there for a reason, and I have been here long enough to remember the chaos of many of these now "only" designated boards before they were given their "only" status.

I admit I dont always like the rules but I do recognize that they are needed and are there for a reason. we cant just pick and choose which rules we are not going to abide by/ break just so that we dont have to see threads without any replies. seeing threads with out any replies is just the risk we take in being part of any internet forum.

Also in looking back on the creation of the "only" designated boards that have come into being during my time here I did discover that there is a way for people who do not fit the "only" criteria to post in those boards....

when someone in those boards asks for someone outside the boards to come in and reply there. like the invite only social groups, you wait until a teen ager asks for non teen ager replies. then non teen agers can reply to that thread.

Just like if the men place in their threads they would like a womans point of view or a senior puts in their thread they want others input, or a trangendered/other asks for non transgender/ other input, or someone in the LGBTQ board asks for non LGBTQ input....

once someone in those boards ask for these replies then its ok for others to post in that thread.

I have not yet seen a teen ager ask for non teen agers to reply there fore I follow the rule and do not reply in that board.

heres a suggestion that might work....maybe in each of these "only" designated boards there can be a statement saying if those in that board would like outside replies, feel free to ask for it. that way if someone does want outsiders replying they can get those replies and those of us outside the "only" designation will still be following the rules, instead of ignoring the "only" rule and posting anyway.

line in the sand the "only" designation is there for a reason. if we all start breaking that rule then problems can happen, feelings can get hurt.

I will continue to follow the "only" designated rule. when I see a post or thread asking for outside the "only" designation then I will reply in those boards, because someone in those boards asked for outside replies.