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Originally Posted by Artchic528
Stalking is serious. It's real, unsettling, and can lead to some long lasting trauma that is hard to deal with.
I've been stalked and it felt like no part of my life was safe, that no matter what I did, I was taunted, degraded, made out to be less than human. I still have some minor trauma from that, and because of such, don't really feel as safe as I once did on the web. I've blocked all avenues that the stalker could use to get to me, but it made me feel like I was living in fear rather than living my life on my own terms.
Why was I stalked? I probably won't ever know the answer, but I know why stalkers do what they do. It's a psychosis, an obsession to they have that goes beyond to the very fringes of mental illness. A delusion that the person feels is real. That in their twisted and warped minds, they must target the object of their obsession no matter what, no matter how many lines they cross.
The point of my thread is that I want to talk about the methods of self care one can take to minimize the threat these horrid, awful people pose in your life, and to openly offer support to anyone who may have been, or is currently being stalked.
Block your stalker, ignore them at every turn. Try your best to live your life on your own terms, and above all, don't give in to their taunting and let them have the power. If it gets serious enough, call the police. Cyber stalking in and of itself is a crime that is punishable by law under the anti bullying act in the US and in several other countries.
Thankfully, I was able to block my stalker before it came to the point where calling the police would have been an option. Their stalking was completely online and I just learned to ignore such childish and psychotic behavior. It's gone now, but the constant threat of my stalker doing something to scare, humiliate, or threaten me is always there.
Please, take care and let's help support each other.   |
This happened to Dan, our host self on a video game forum years ago that has a reputation for being abusive to new members.
He got into an argument there with the ring leader of a clique who (unknown to him at that time) ruled that forum with an iron fist.
The other guy attacked him in two threads without having been previously provoked so, G stepped in for Dan and called the guy out and they eventually had it out in a part of the forum setup for conflicts. After the argument was over or seemed to be over, DH taunted the clique leader in a PM because that's how DH messes with people who mess with Dan. It was a bad move that ended up causing Dan a great deal of stress and trauma as the clique leader and his friends began attacking Dan in unexpected, various, psychological ways using just about every form of emotionally distressing methods one can think of. They made it hard for him to leave the forum because he had unknowingly entered into a transaction with one of the clique members before things got out of hand.
Enduring weeks of abuse from these people over a measly thirtyfive dollars Dan finally gave in and admitted defeat at which point the clique leader stepped out and took a bow, proudly revealing that he'd orchestrated the entire asault
Still this wasn't enough as they all continued to abuse him and not a one of the people who claimed to have liked Dan tried to put a stop to it, nor did any of the moderators one of whom was in on it but, careful not to incriminate himself and the other mod in charge just flat out didn't care. At the end of it all a few people tried to get Dan to stay on the forum but, too much damage had been done and the experience almost turned him off to video gaming intirely. Dan left the forum after recieving his two games in the mail that he know longer had an interest in playing that still haven't been played to this day and will be sold in 2020 when they become official antiques. Though he partly brought the attack on himself by not doing research on that forum before signing up and lurking for a while to see how they treated people there before posting and ultimately made things worse by letting DH taunt the clique leader a bit, the overall abuse from these people was brutal and heartless and they derived great pleasure in carrying out the assault. The harassment continued even after pleas for mercy were issued by Dan and after leaving the forum behind Dan was cyber stalked with emails being hacked, viruses sent to emails, an entire small time email server being rendered useless (still a mystery that one) and Dan stopped foruming after that for five whole years. Also his taste in video gaming changed greatly and his interest in internet activities dwindled. When he got himself under control again he did extensive research on the clique and found that they had done this to many more people over the years but, had never been caught. Also we discovered that the clique leader is a self professed sociopath and very much proud of it. Dan is still wary of that clique even today and is careful to inspect his emails carefully and to stay away from that forum and other forums and groups associated with them. Dan may be naive but, he is no fool. He knows things about the stalker and his clique friends because it pays to know your enemies. So it was a hard lesson that cost us but, we survived it and are much more careful online and even in forums as a result.