Hugs.

Oh boy, makes me glad that my bf's family aren't anywhere as fluent in English as he is, so we can't talk deep stuff.

Though it was mildly triggering for me when they passed around photos of one of them when she was a child.

Can you and your bf come up with a signal, "safe word" or 'safe phrase"? My bf and me decided that if I found something triggering and wanted his help to redirect the conversation, I'll text him.