I don't want to keep it the same necessarily. I just don't think I'm EVER going to stop wanting my T to be more than she is to me. I think radical acceptance is where I am now. I do a lot of good work with my T so I have to accept never totally seeing her as totally the professional she is. I've made progress in separating and becoming my own person so maybe that's as good as it gets. Personality disorders are difficult to overcome. I am doing my best. If it's not good enough, it's time to stop struggling and accept myself. That's kind of what I meant.