Are there any support groups near where you live? Especially, right now, grief support groups? If so, that may be a way to find others that might help with other issues. In my experience, just being with other, regular people who can kind of understand me, in some ways, feels good and is helpful in that way, generally. It may not help with the deeper stuff, but I'm not sure that therapy is always the way to try to deal with those things either. Great if it works, not so great if it doesn't.

Also, have you considered that going to a messed up therapist could STILL help -- as long as you keep the focus on what you are wanting help with? I tried that recently with a couple of therapists and they were clueless, but maybe you could have better luck.