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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
The thing here, though, is that I don't think DP's T understands any of this. If he can't do the therapeutic work here for whatever reason, he isn't a safe option to be a therapist. This is just going to get more complicated and painful until it explodes in an even bigger fireball. I'm not just saying that because his shifting boundaries created the situation (although that's a pretty big red flag) but because he already sounds like he has no clue how to work through the situation.
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I agree with you here.... although he claims nothing has changed, no new boundaries etc, but we will see. I don't think he is gonna be the same chummy, funny guy he was before, so that would be a change.
I'm struggling because I am so attached and I know this loss would just end me. I can't handle it so soon after my dog. I just don't know what else to do. You are right though, he seems unsure of what to do... as well as with my phobias. We discussed phobia on session 2, 9 months ago and we have made no progress other than discussing where they came from... it feels like he just does not want to help me but I'm already sucked in and can't leave. Not sure what to do