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Originally Posted by BudFox
In my opinion, feeling worse as you are is NOT progress, NOT a breakthrough, and NOT a sign that the magical forces of transference are manifesting to save you. You don't have to drink that kool-aid.
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Why you can't feel worse when you start to dig and explore some old forgotten wounds? I think it's completely normal. Usually, you WILL feel worse at some point of therapy.
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Originally Posted by BudFox
Therapy is very very seductive. It provokes intense, addictive longings. It sounds like you are just following your innate drives and needs. Nothing wrong with that. But in my experience, it's entirely the wrong context for such needs and longings to come out. Ain't your fault though.
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For me it's great that we have this "fake context". Normally we can observe these drive and needs in our real life. But in normal relationship we can't (often) discuss this and understand. Therapy is like a lab where you feel something and you can look at this carefully and think about where it comes from. And then you can move your new attitude to the real life.
Is it better to have childish drives in normal relationship where you can't do much with this? I don't think so...