I am so glad I am not the only one that goes through these layers around events like this. Happy that we get what we want and a bit guilty about what we did to get what we want. And sometimes wondering what else we can get using that technique. I think it is good to recognize the many internal motivations of what we might be doing, at some point though I think we have to think of some of them as not "pitched a fit" but as being assertive with our needs/wants - which is ok.