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Old Jan 08, 2018, 02:13 PM
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Always in This Twilight
 
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Originally Posted by QuietMind View Post
Sounds like a unhealthy dynamic where you're frequently being pathologised. You as the "identified patient" (scapegoat!) in your marriage.
Yes, this has been an issue I've brought up multiple times to MC over the past year or two. Yet, for the most part, it didn't change. He'd say it was because I was the one more open to talking about my feelings or about my parents. I e-mailed him about it a couple months ago when it happened again in session, giving an example of how he could have suggested something for H to work on too. He called me a day or two later, and we discussed it. The next session actually ended up being fairly helpful, with him making some suggestions for both of us to better handle a recurring conflict. (Then later that week, I sent him that love e-mail, and then we ended up in that heated phone call the following Sunday, where it all went to hell...and now we're working on termination...)
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