Please think very hard about taking this guy back because he tells you he is going to change.

If he was 16, maybe. A man in his 40s who cheats on women and kissed women while married (oh of course it was because he didn’t have true connection or intimacy with his wife, it’s a typical excuse that cheaters make, so his excuse to looking for other women on match while sleeping with you is lack of intimate connection too? Those are typical excuses that you should never believe).

Of course he could come back and of course he could tell you things how he is a changed man or how he’ll fix his problem etc Honestly there are men out there with whom you can have wonderful connection and deep meaningful love and commitment and they aren’t “man w..res”. Why go for men who need fixing and changing when there are good men who don’t need fixing?

Again my therapist said to me that sometimes we feel intense “meant to be” crazy chemistry for very wrong people because we respond to “familiar”-unhealthy familiar, in fact it feels so strong precisely because of how wrong the person is for you.

You felt very strong deep (rare) connection with other guy too just two months ago and he was all wrong for you too, both guys you didn’t know well enough and both lack something important.

Something you need and deserve in a partner. You definitely can do much better.