Hey. I’m sorry u ar struggling so much right now and don’t feel like you have any support. It’s possible that your mom just feels helpless to do anything and doesn’t know what to say. Can you ask her for specofic ways to support you? Things that would help you cops better?

I know for me, when depressed I didn’t know how to ask for help or even what to ask for ornwhat I needed. But one of the most helpful things my mom did for me was when she came over to visit and did my dishes or laundry. Didn’t say anything (which would have mAde me feel ashamed I couldn’t even take care of the house), she just did it. And it was such a relief to me to have one less thing to worry about. Another thing that helped a lot was sometimes my best friend would come over to hang out and not talk. We would both be reading books or something. It wasn’t good for me to be alone so this way I had company without any pressure of having to actually talk.

I can relate to the feeling all alone thing- my parents are great but they live very far away and I don’t get to see them often. I do have a few good friends who know about my depr and want to help, but also have their own lives to return to and n the end it is still just me standing by myself.

I don’t think any of my mrried coworker friends can really relate, bc when shiit goes bad with them they always have their spouse to help and be on their side. I am standing all alone. I have to deal with all the stressors of daily life all by myself and sometimes it just feels like too much. But there is no s/o or family member that will step in and take over for me when I have had enough and can no longer hold up the world. I have to just somehow keep standing there and not not get crushed. So I get it and I have been there.

Please don’t feel like you need to do something drastic to get your parents attention or prove to them how much you need help. Reach out now and find it. If your family isn’t able to be your support network, find a different one- a therapist, support group, friend, whatever. You deserve to do more than just exist. Hang in there.