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Originally Posted by eskielover
He needs to get help & CHANGE before eber giving him the time of day now.
Yes, it went smoothly at first because you were doing the relationship on HIS terms. SEX, FUN, & NO relationship demands. Then when you starter to put normal relationship demands on a relationship that had ALL the actovities of NORMAL peoples exclucivity, you found out who & whst he really was. Good thing ypu talked about it because it brought to light EXACTLY where he was coming from & WHY he never mentioned exclucivity to you.
Wise move to leave this. You really need to do the work on yourself that you didnt do after your lsst relationship. Doing that will put you in a better place to attract a better class of guy..
Just a thought, he was the kind of guy who was out there wanting sex without the committment of an exclusive relationship & you gave it to him (even if you wanted it yourself) If you hadnt been so fast with the sex, he probably yould have not had any interest in you because you wouldnt have provided him the ONLY thing he wanted in a relarionship along with fun. It might have been OBVIOUS early on what kind of guy he was if you hadn't been so willing to give him the ONLY thing he really wanted....just something to think about. Yep sexual freedom has its drawbacks too.
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You're really reading into this, I do believe. We cannot interpret his actions. No one here witnesssed our relationship or him within our relationship. This is all conjecture at this point about what he wanted, what he was doing with me, and what he is thinking.
I know he misses me. He said this today. I know he is hurting. he doesn't like this aspect of himself and wants to figure it out. I respect and applaud that.
Once again, I am being chastised for having done things "wrong" -- I did things as I wanted to do them. So be it. So I went into another relationship -- so what?
Enough with the analysis and projections.
He is not that bad of a guy. He has a problem and admits to it. He knows he needs help with it.