Has anyone done this with their therapist and benefitted from it? I do like my therapist, so far they've been pretty adaptable when it comes to things that would make me more comfortable. I've been struggling with the dynamic a lot and am trying to figure out how to help her help me. In one of our sessions where she mentioned she might be feeling stuck I asked questions about why. A lot of her answers didn't measure up, for me but now I'm thinking maybe she has misread me a lot more than I thought. I've been told a lot that I'm difficult to know, even by other doctors and friends. I'm good at talking, and socializing, but not so good at communicating feelings and if that make sense.

I want to see my file, but most things I find are for people that dislike their therapist or something legal. I'm not concerned with weather she thinks I'm nice or have a good heart, but more to what she sees as blocking her out or putting my guard up.
Also realized while she feeling that she is a stranger to me, and when she self disclosed a bit to help with that it didn't have a huge effect. Now I realize, because I wasn't really curious about her personal life or what she did on the weekends. I realized I have no way of understanding her profession. My pdoc, explains why a medication may or may not work, what to expect, etc.
But my therapist hasn't explained any of her techniques, but is it possible for them to be open about the technique they'd use in regards to my situation and it to still have an effect?

I see so much about strong transference, and how painful it can be. But if the first therapist you had this with, mentioned this early on and explained it do you think it'd help any? I figure, I can accept that it will happen, but think the awareness would help keep boundaries and attachment healthy.