Oh, don't get me wrong. It is less that I live in that place and more like I vacation there. But it does sound like you are already there, and striving to be there more and less reactive sounds like a great goal.

I've not found much benefit by being reactive, it seems like doing so cements that connection between trigger and unwise words or actions. Being responsive to the moment, if necessary to relate to someone else as opposed to notice what's happening, like you describe yourself doing, that has been helpful to me.

I'm glad you can notice change rather than beating yourself up for not being perfect (if that's ever happened, not trying to tell you about yourself).