no I would not consider suddenly getting an unsigned christmas card from a cousin that is not on my facebook friends list a betrayal of another family member.... if it was me my first thought would be wow this cousin took the time to locate me and send me a christmas card....

you see everything is computerized now. if anyone has a facebook or twitter and they have filled in the registration questions then through doing an internet search anyone can find that person. if anyone uses their real name and real address and phone numbers on the internet in any way.... to buy things, to register for websites, or even have electric bills, phone bills, a bank aaccount... you name it... everything is computerized now. its very easy to locate someone....

example recently my wife and I found a picture with just a name on the back that belonged to someone who used to own our home years ago. the picture was found inside a wall vent. we went on the internet. googled their name and there we had the past owners name. their descendants, their locations, birth records, death records heck we even had one of their relatives prison records, that was all online through these digital public records websites.

in todays world if someone doesnt want to be found they have to go totally cash, no internet, no cable, no cellphones no trails at all not even renting or buying a home.... go off the grid so the speak.

so no I would not jump to the conclusion that another family member told them...

most people now days dont sign christmas cards. when I open my regular mail and I have christmas cards sometimes I even have to guess at the senders name because they havent signed the christmas card and forgot to put their own name and address on the enveloope. I again chalk this up to hey we are in the computer age, doing things manually for some people is almost non existent. I know lots of people who rely more on computers then manual non computer things so they just dont think about signing a paper christmas card.

my suggestion would be to contact the cousin and say something like........thank you and by the way do you realize you forgot to sign the card. good thing you filled out the envelop so that I could find you and thank you for the card. then they can tell you their self how they found you and why they didnt sign the card.