Okay, thank you. I found it.

Here's the thing, people who abuse you do appear.to be horrid, awful people to you. Do you want me to say, oh, my dad was a nice guy though, even though he beat me and abused me all those years...no, he's a horrid, awful person. Is there stuff wrong with him? Sure. Could he get help and change? I suppose. But it doesn't change who he is to me.

So yes, the person who cyberstalked me and tried to cause me emotional and financial harm is an awful person, in my opinion, regardless of whatever is wrong with them. There is no requirement that I have compassion for my abusers nor that I forgive them.