I’m trying to decide if I should tell my therapist something really personal about myself--specifically about my sexuality. I’m not ashamed about it, nor do I wish to change (if that change were even possible). But it is a bit unusual, and I live in a rural area and so I keep this very private. It doesn’t really have anything to do with the problem I am going to therapy for. But I’ve had to talk around it a little bit...lie about relationships for example.

What I worry about of course is that he will reject me. He is religious. I am not. He’s never tried to push his religion on me, and in fact promised me that he wouldn’t. But I worry that he will think that I am sinful or that this is a disorder. And I don’t want to spend a lot of time discussing something I have no intention of changing. But on the other hand, it feels like a big secret. And it might help him understand me a little bit better.

I guess I’m curious what other people think. Would you tell him? And if so how would you bring up the topic?