Welcome to PC,Sellskc. I think the reason your husband is criticizing and getting upset at you is because he is annoyed with himself first. Since he can't confide in you for whatever reason, pride, fear etc, he will instead get more upset and can only release it on you. So, please don't jump into conclusion about what you are doing wrong or how to improve yourself. I fall into that trap too. I realize it's a TRAP and mental distortion. Almost always, the aggressor has something bothering him/her that isn't reconciled at the moment.