I am sorry that you have to isolate yourself to escape from abuse. I assume that you feel very lonely.
Do you have any examples that you can share with us?
What is your husband getting upset about?
Although, if every little thing you do bugs him, it is possible that he has many other issues, which may or may not be related to your relationship. I would suggest that he does some self reflection as to what is really upsetting him. You or his anger/issues?