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Originally Posted by maybeblue
Thank you. I wouldn't say I'm super attached to him--yet at least. He does seem to be competent and I like him fine.
I can't really tell without asking him if my fear of him judging me is my fear based on feeling judged by other religious people or if it is really a possibility. I'm leaning toward it being my problem not his. He never brought up the religion thing. I brought it up based on something on his website (he does Christian counseling too.) He really doesn't seem to be a Roy Moore kind of Christian.
It would be hard to find someone else around here...particularly someone who has a lot of experience with eating disorders, which is what I went in for. I don't think he has facebook or it's set to super private. I did a general google search on him before the first session...mostly to see if there were any red flags. There weren't. But I feel weird doing much other digging. Plus one of my problems is dealing with things directly, so I would feel better about myself if I did that.
At this point I would survive without him. So it might be worth the risk.
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maybeblue
the other thing that may be an issue is you said you live in a rural area. Maybe they are the only therapist your insurance would cover with not a super long commute. If so the risk may outweigh the possible reward. Maybe you need to write down (if privacy from others discovering it not a problem) what you think you might gain from telling someone else and then also what you might lose if that person you trust (this therapist) rejects you, possibly violates your trust, if you participated in a crime or illegal activity, report you to the police. Therapist confidentiality does not preclude them from reporting criminal activity or harmful behavior.
Another option might be to find an online support group for your sexual issue and get support that way from people of like mind using an anonymous account.
For me trusting someone takes time and if they are the only therapy option maybe that risk is too much. They are only human. Depends on them and how much the sexual issue triggers them.
If I were going to test the water I would tell them about a cousin that lives a 1000 miles away that has the issue (the one you know you suffer from) and I am not sure how to deal with them. This way you only risk a bad session that they may be triggered. But if this therapist is smart they may figure out what you are doing so be careful.
Here are other threads that struggle with the same issues
https://forums.psychcentral.com/psyc...verything.html
https://forums.psychcentral.com/psyc...therapist.html
https://psychcentral.com/lib/tips-fo...erapist/?all=1