Thanks. Interesting to hear about your experiences. Yes, I agree it probably would be rewarding to talk to her about what happened and I perhaps will. Part of me doesn´t want to give her another chance and I´m also hesitant about if she´s able to act in another way even if I ask her to. To focus on talking instead of doing exercises.
Some therapists honestly want feedback while many others rather find other clients but hard to tell how this specific therapist will act if I schedule another meeting with her to talk this through.
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Originally Posted by maybeblue
I have often had that problem. I get mad and am afraid to tell the therapist, or my mind goes blank, or I'm just too overwhelmed with emotion to express myself. My opinion is that it might be worth talking to her about it...and not for her, for you. I think it might make you feel more empowered if you express it directly..."When you had us do that silence exercise, I felt ridiculed and it reminded me of other times that I have been upset at therapists."
And then tell her what you want to do differently in therapy. Maybe you just want to talk and not do a bunch of exercises. Maybe you want to journal so you can get your thoughts in order and go over the journal with her. It's your therapy. You are paying her. It makes sense to listen to her opinions of course, but you get to decide the path it takes. And if she doesn't respect that, then maybe you should stop seeing her and seeing someone who does. But maybe she just doesn't know how you are feeling and would really appreciate your feedback.
Just an opinion from someone who has seen a lot of therapists over a lot of years  |