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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
I’ve had long-term relationships with single parents and if you truly love the parent, you grow to love the child, too. I can’t imagine treating my partner’s child as “less than.” I certainly wouldn’t date someone who did. Like another poster mentioned, my sister and I were treated VERY differently growing up and it has had an effect on me my whole life. I’m still a stable, successful adult but I will always have some insecurities because of how I was treated. I hate to see other kids experience that.
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I disagree.
I love my niece and nephews deerly but at no point they are my children, they are treated as very much loved niece and nephews, but they have parents. They are not treated “less than”. But I am not going to pretend I can replace their parents just because I love them!
One can love and treat stepkids wonderfully too but still not consider them your children especially if there are parents in the picture!. My daughter has wonderful stepmom but at no point I or my daughter expect or want her stepmom act as my daughter is her kid! What for? It doesn’t mean anything is “less than”. My daughter has a mother! It’s me! She isn’t denied to have a mother in her life! She has one!
Now my brother and sister in law adopted a child whose mother died and dad gave up his rights. My brother and sis in law adopted him and most certainly they took on a role of complete parenting. But the kid in this thread has parents! Mom and dad! Why would someone expect a girlfriend, not even a wife, act as she is child’s mother is ridiculous to me.
Frankly a man didn’t marry s woman for 8 years yet expects she becomes a mother to his kid. Kid who already has a mother! This is just unrealistic