I could see having problems with a younger therapist. Unfortunately, the older you get the more likely this is to happen.

On the one hand, they don't have nearly as much life experience as an older therapist. On the other they may know more about the current research and how best to help you. I guess I'm not a big believer in having to have someone treat me who has the exact same experiences that I have. If I have a dog phobia, I don't necessarily want someone who has a dog phobia too. I'd rather have someone who knows best how to treat a phobia.

But it sounds to me like you might be feeling talked down to, or like she doesn't really understand your issues before giving a bunch of advice. And that's a problem no matter how old your therapist is.

You can be as picky as you want to be when you choose a therapist. But you might find that talking to her directly about it could be helpful to you. "I feel like you don't really understand this problem." And the way she responds might help you decide if she is a good fit or not.