I have taken Abilify: it was helpful for me in blunting my suicidal feelings. I can't say how it works for impulsive and dangerous behavior for sure, but it did seem to blunt things, so maybe it will help with that.

I do know that a lot of psych meds have side effects that fade with time; it might be that you just have to ride out the side effects to see if Abilify works for you.

I'm sure you doctor wants to help you curtail anything that is putting your life at risk. People in general will probably want to try to put a stop to that. If you don't want to take meds, then perhaps you could seek out other ways to stay safe.