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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
Wow well my T got really mad, like a normal person mad and lost his T costume . He said that reading into or trying to figure out why he said I will Be Out Of Town at the doorknob was setting hm up and shutting him down and reactions I didnt understand. He is usually very composed and thoughtful in every response. I am worried I hurt his feelings, and I have no clue what transpired and escalated.
Even though Elio sees my point, my T absolutely doesnt, and he won't back down even a tiny bit to see any part of my viewpoint. It is very unlike him.
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Wow, that is a bit defensive. For me it wasn't about what he was doing or trying to figure why he said at the door knob, it was all about him not giving you the appropriate time and space to process the change in routine and the loss of "you" time with him; and maybe you asking him to give you more time to process these changes, even if that means just talking about it at the beginning of the session rather than the end. I'm not sure why he'd say it was setting him up and/or shutting him down. Very weird indeed. I am sorry that he was not able to keep the experience about you and how telling you at the end of a session impacted you.