In my case, I hold the emotions. I have lived with an emotional pain knot in my stomach all my life. I did not recognize it for what it was until I started trying to get therapy in 1992. It is a grief knot. I was kept in non-stop grief for the first five years of my childhood. I got continually psychologically, emotionally and physically traumatized by my Mother and two-year older brother during those five years. I innately loved them. They never "felt my pain" if you know what I mean.

But I know that I have other sides to me that do not feel that emotional pain knot. I wish I could be like that. If someone had been able to help me remove my emotions from my relationships with my Mother and Brother, I would not be as mentally ill as I am.