Ok, so now that my new guy is out of the picture, I am obsessing over my ex fiance again.

I don't know why I cannot let this go and it is frustrating the heck out of me. I need advice/help.

I'm obsessing over wanting to hear from my ex. I want him to still want me so that I can reject him and confront him.

We've discussed on here the futility of a confrontation because of his extreme immaturity and also because he becomes verbally abusive in response to a confrontation. I still want the chance though to confront all his lies and his possible cheating on me. I also want the chance to reject him, because when we broke up, he behaved as though he were rejecting me.

Why is this so important to me? Is my ego so fragile that I need to feel this power over him? Is my ego so fragile that I need to have the last word and make it clear that I am the one rejecting him and not the other way around?

He also always told me that he would never break up with me -- that it would have to be me that breaks up with him. The fact that he acted like he was rejecting me still hurts -- even to this day.

I am so upset with myself -- I wish to God I could just let this go and move on from it! GRRRRR.

And I DO have tendency to hold onto relationships LONG after they've ended. I obsess and can't let go... I don't know how to change this.