Everyone goes to therapy for different reasons and every one has a unique story which brings out lots of different things. I have intense transference for my T and sometimes it boggles my own mind so I can understand how someone who has never experienced it might find it difficult to get their head around. That being said the fact that you find these things that happen to other people and not you so irritating might be worth exploring more. Perhaps there is something more behind the things themselves or maybe it’s just plain ol inability to step into anothers shoes