I disagree. My ex fiance, unlike what people here think, did not use me. He was deeply in love with me. This last guy did not use me either and told me he loves me. You are wrong. And I most certainly did not allow anyone to use me. I resent that. Please don't throw out assumptions on situations you don't know enough about. You weren't a part of my relationship with either man. You did not witness how they were with me. I find your post to be very triggering.