I know this will be difficult to hear, but having been in your shoes before, I need to warn you that becoming Facebook friends with this guy you only dated for 7 weeks, who rejected you because he doesn't want to commit to anyone yet, is a bad idea.

It is a bad idea to become his Facebook friend because doing so will create a false sense of intimacy that doesn't exist.

Please take comfort knowing that there are better candidates out there for you to date and have a relationship with; men who are ready to commit, who have their whole act together. This guy had some pieces in place, but not everything and he even told you that he wasn't the right guy for you in so many words.

Please forget him. Clinging to him through social media like Facebook will only mess with your heart and your head even more. As of 2017, the world population if 7.6 billion people, 101.8 men to every 100 women. He's not *the* right guy because he's not 100% put together for you. Waiting for him to fill in the gaps and be ready for you, is a futile endeavor. I'm sorry. Breakups are painful.

Look on the bright side. You only dated each other for 7 weeks. That's not a long period of time.


100% agree with you. No one but this guy, can fix his own problems. Don't take on a guy thinking you can ever fix his problems for him, because you can't. Like the adage goes, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink." And why would anyone want to spend time being codependent to a person who outright rejects them.

Invest your time on yourself and healing from this brief relationship, golden_eve.

If a guy rejects you, be happy about it because that means he wasn't the right guy. It sounds so cliche, but it's true.